How to Date and Still Be a Good Mom

If you're recently single, you might wonder how you can balance your desire for a romantic relationship with the requirements of your children. Your dating habits can set the tone for your children's future relationships, both positive and negative. You must set a good example for your children while meeting your needs.

Step1
Wait until the right moment to introduce your children to your date. Your kids don't need to meet every man you date. When you feel the dating turning into a relationship, it's time to include the children.

Step2
Be truthful with your children. Although your intimate life is private, if your teenager sees your dates spending the night and you teach values that prohibit premarital sex, you're sending mixed messages.

Step3
Expect children to vacillate in their acceptance of your dates. Sometimes children like the date in the beginning, but feel threatened as the relationship progresses and they have to "share" their mother with another adult.

Step4
Maintain your priorities. Although you shouldn't be a martyr, you must keep your children's needs in first place. Scheduling a romantic getaway the same weekend as your daughter's piano recital reflects questionable decision-making and may hurt or offend your child. It also sets up the "him or me" situation you want to avoid.

Step5
Don't give too much weight to the advice of others who may have a bias. Your family and friends might have trouble with your new role as a dating mom. Only you can decide what's best for you and your children.

Step6
End the relationship if it's not working for you. If you maintain an unhappy relationship because your children adore the man, you risk repeating another failed marriage. Learning to cope with loss serves as a part of a child's life experience.

Ladies How To Find Out if Your Man Is Cheating?

I can tell you both MEN and WOMEN do cheat but MEN do cheat more than women. Why is this? It’s because that is how it is. Easy…easy it’s like this WOMEN think of LOVE first while MEN think of SEX first.
Now ladies down here are ways you can find if your Man is cheating. Keep in mind that some men are very smart and its tough to find out.

Step1
If all of a sudden your man starts asking you where you're going to be and when you're coming home, that might be a red flag. If he makes up excuses to leave the house, like for example work called or he makes up a reason to go to the store at some odd hour and is gone way longer than he should be, that is also cause for wonder. Especially if he leaves right after receiving a mysterious phone call.

Step2
If you receive a lot of calls that hang up after you answer, that could be a bad sign.

Step3
If your man starts behaving strangely. If he starts telling you that he feels you're not making love to him enough when you know you are etc etc, this should be a concern. Often when a man (or even a woman for that matter) is cheating, they attempt to justify their actions to make them feel less guilt. If you see this kind of behavior keep your eyes open.

Step4
Pay attention to unusual smells he may have. Particularly the smell of an usual place or the smell of perfume that's NOT yours. Also be suspicious if he rushes off to shower right after coming home or if he smells like he's just had a fresh shower.

Step5
Start literally listen through walls. Pay attention to everything. Listen to his phone conversations or his talk with friends. You can even get a voice activated tape recorder and leave it in places such as his study or even in the car. You can take his cell phone and call yourself. This will act as a great spy device until he has to use his cell or until the cell loses signal.

Step6
Keep record of everything. Places he goes, like for example his friend's addresses. Keep as much information as you can. You never know when you might need to know something in order to catch him in the act.

Step7
If he's out super late, try calling hotels and asking for him. I know it would seem stupid to check in with his own name but men can be total morons.

Step8
Check his car for evidence. Long hair on the seat. The seat or seatbelt is readjusted etc. Cigarettes in the ashtray with lipstick on it. Women ALWAYS leave something behind. A hair clip, brush or even articles of clothing. Leave no stone left un turned and use your imagination. Check around for hand drawn maps or directions.

Step9
Pay attention to how good your man is looking. If he's dressing to impress, make sure it's for you.

Step10
Keep tabs on how much money he's spending and on what. If large amounts of money is disappearing that is unaccounted for, start asking questions.

Step11
Find out how far away his work is by driving there and back. Check the mileage on your car so you know the distance. Take a note pad and pencil and record your boyfriend/husbands mileage daily. If he takes a little long getting home, ask somewhat casually what took him so long and ask him specifically if he stopped off someplace. 

Step12
While he's taking a shower, go through his pockets and wallet. There should be tons of evidence there. Most men are really stupid about hiding things that will get them busted. If you find phone numbers, call them and find out who they are. Also look for other evidence like condoms or pictures. Check his cell phone. Look at all the calls he's made and received lately. Smell his clothing and check his underwear for any obvious fresh stains.

Step13
When you say you're going to be gone for a certain length of time, show up early! If your man says he's working overtime at work, visit his job once in a while.

Step14
Or you can hire a private investigator they are many nowadays. If your stack along the way and you feel like you need assistance email us and will assist you accordingly.
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YOUNG LOVE - Beyonce and her young fan

She's a hugger! An "empowered" Beyoncé shares a sweet embrace with a young fan while debuting her new fragrance, Pulse, Thursday in New York City.

8 Things Guys Notice About You Instantly

You know that look where his eyes slide past you...then turn back? Wouldn’t it be great to know what stopped him? You totally can. “There are a few things men instantly observe when they meet a woman,” says Jackie Black, PhD, author of Meeting Your Match. Learn what they are and you can maximize your, um, assets. Then you’ll have your pick.

1. How Thick Your Hair Is
This is all about evolution. Since caveman days, dudes have been drawn to lush locks, which signal that a woman is healthy (translation: shaggable).

2. If Your Smile Is Genuine
Sometimes your eyes crinkle a bit when you grin. Most men are good at distinguishing the vibe of this kind of smile, which says you’re relaxed and fun.

3. The Size of Your Group
You don’t want a big bunch (it’ll be hard for him to approach) or just one friend (he’ll figure you wouldn’t desert her to talk to him). The perfect crew size? Three. Your two buds can keep each other company when you slip away.

4. The Pitch of Your Voice
Studies show that men are drawn to voices in a slightly higher register (think Kristin Bell’s), probably because — yep, evolution — they’re reliable signs of youth and reproductive health.

5. Your Hip-to-Waist Ratio
Yet again, blame eons of human history. Men instinctually look for baby mamas. If your waist is noticeably smaller than your hips, it signifies fertility — a huge point in your favor. A wide belt will emphasize that hourglass shape.

6. Your Glowiness
Guys associate a radiant complexion with good mental health. That’s because stress and anxiety usually cause breakouts and dull skin. So those lotions and bronzers you sweep over your cheeks? Totally worth it.

7. What’s Fake About You
Not personality-fake, but artificial-accoutrement- fake: lashes, hair extensions, etc. To guys, these things shout high-maintenance! Not good.

8. Your Eyes
People focus on eyes more than they do on any other body part. And dramatic eye makeup will have him zeroing in on your peepers even more.

Sources: Daniel Amen, MD, author of The Brain and Love; David Feinberg, PhD, Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychology, Neuroscience, and Behavior at McMaster University; Helen Fisher, PhD, Professor of Anthropology at Rutgers University and author of Why Her? Why Him?; Lisa Shield, dating coach in Los Angeles.